Congratulations. There’s a lot to think about when your newborn comes along and to be honest, I think you should concentrate on eating things to keep you happy and healthy and only worry about what’s being being passed through your breast milk if there’s a particular problem.
I've heard that it's important to eat a diverse natural diet in order to avoid allergy development. I've heard (from different sources) that both avoiding and excessive intake of peanuts leads to peanut allergy development.
Your last sentence gets my full 'random internet dude' endorsement though!
I have a genetic disorder that wasn't diagnosed until my kids were 11 and 13. The child in question has the same genetic disorder that wasn't diagnosed until a few weeks after I was diagnosed because they tested both my kids after I was diagnosed.
He and I both have found we continue to need to limit our consumption of peanuts because they are pro-inflammatory, having nothing whatsoever to do with allergy per se.
Congratulations! In addition to other advice here, please find a scientifically minded and up to date pediatrician who can recommend good reading material to you. Unfortunately, it's hard to vet for this when you are not a medical professional, but read reputable materials about pregnancy and early childhood (research the authors) and try your best to learn as much as you can, while also searching carefully for a public track record, awards, etc. each candidate pediatrician might have.
When you have one you are happy with, discuss this topic and anything else you are curious about with him/her and the nurses. Don't be shy and ask as many questions as you can, they are there to help you. Please beware of anecdotes and forums. Best of luck!
> list [...] sounds like it would be very useful...
I think it's more dynamic and adaptive than that. That two people, at some specific time, seemed to have a pattern of causes of (un)happiness, would likely be of only limited use elsewhere.
Googling turns up innumerable recommended/avoid food lists... with some overlap. :)
But the main lesson I drew, was the applicability of wisdom from ops, experimentation, system design, debugging, and so on.
Patterns exist which are usefully noticed. Even though many are short-lived, and are mixed with noise. Expect them to change.
Keep logs/notes. Including about yourself. Because it's hard to keep track of things, let alone see patterns, and notice them changing, when you're distracted and exhausted.
Witness a "you know, it seems like maybe, the team might be tired and unproductive on the day after we go drinking all evening?" :)
It helps if you can find "a place to stand", something that works, at least for now, that you can build out from, while keeping things working, and backing off when things stop working. One new food at a time.
When things are broken, it's nice to have some simpler setup(s) you can fall back to. Small easy simple minimalist. Someplace familiar to stand and debug from. A set of "these are easy and have never seemed a problem" foods.
A-B testing; falling back to "more likely to be good" state; divide and conquer search; the idea that you gradually introduce changes and see how they go; ... all are useful.
KISS.
No doubt a lot of professions feel their training was great preparation for supporting a child. It sure seems that way for engineering. (There is a book series to write, if it doesn't already exist... "The <profession> guide to <age> children".)
Good luck. I saw a story once, about a mom who captured a picture of their child every day before he left for school, because she was convinced she would never see him again... the person who came back later, was always someone a bit different - familiar, but not someone she'd met yet. So a random silly bit of old-guy advice: savor the dance, for it can't be captured, is a sacrilege to retard, and escapes irretrievably beyond reach every day.
